We all know the saying, "forgive and forget" but I have a news flash for you. You don't have to do that. You can forgive someone without forgetting what caused the apology in the first hand. 

It is okay to be cautious around people who have hurt you in the past. 

It is okay to be less forgiving in the future. 

It is okay to put your needs first. 

No one is perfect, and moving on is important. Holding a grudge can be exhausting, and who has time for that. But if you choose to forget everything from your past, you are only destined to repeat it. 

Which is no fun. 

So go out there and forgive away, just make sure you don't forget what made you stronger and forgiving in the first place.